Hey Everyone… well summer has started…afternoons are spent napping or by the pool, often with a snack or a beer in hand. Since moving to tottenham, I have learned to enjoy listening to the traffic reports of people stuck in traffic on the way up to the cottage… I’ll tune it in on the deck in the back yard, adn drift in and out of semi consciousness….
Browsing Posts published in June, 2007
Found this old post and thought it was quite fitting…
So along the same lines as my earlier rant… How many chances does it take before you give up on someone… or a relationship… When I was dating people(in the god ole days?) I had an unwritten rule that was designed to keep me from getting the "stalker" stigma.. if I called someone 3 times, and they never called ma back, or I went out with someone 3 times and they never instigated an outing, then I would give up on that relationship until the other party showed some interest…
Now… after saying that, I owe a lot to a very good friend, and very old friend… for arguements sake, lets call him Phil… or maybe Philter… whatever….This"Phil" was a big part of my high school life, and when I moved out of the house at 21, he remained a very close friend… Every day after work, I would be greated be a message, Hey Ry, it’s "Phil" calling, give me a shout when you are in…" If Phil used the same criteria that I used, I would have one fewer friend around cause I definatly didn’t put as much effort into the relationship as he did… so it is a give and take thing…
Fast forward to today. I guess the same basic rules apply in the bottom of my head, if you try and try on a relationship, when is it ok to give up? whenever? never? wait a month and try again? I think it depends on the situation. With my relationship with Jen, Never… it is never ok to give up. With my relationship with Co-workers, it would be more along the wait a month and try again… ex girlfriends? Probably whenever. maybe never?
so what is my point? I dunno… this is my soap box… I rant…. if you read it, poor you… maybe I am just trying to justify in my own head why I give up on some relationships and try hard at others…. Someday I should try to figure out what I look for in friends… Perhaps it is a constant search for more "Phil’s"
